What Is the Best Therapy for Couples?

Roughly 40 – 50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. However, nearly 50% of couples also utilize therapy to try and save a relationship that, for some reason or another, appears to be hitting a rough patch. The right couples counseling can fix a marriage if you’re willing to put in the work. If you need couples therapy in New York City, it’s crucial to work with someone who cares about your relationship.

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Here are some of the couples therapy options you may consider:

  • Reflective listening: This allows each person to discuss their feelings and how they feel hurt, opening the lines of communication.
  • Emotionally focused therapy: This helps couples learn how to identify patterns in the relationship that cause problems and work to fix them.
  • Solution focused therapy: This works especially well for couples that are experiencing a specific problem and focuses on a way to fix it.

If you and your spouse experience troubles in your relationship, you want to ensure you are taking every step necessary to save your marriage. Couples therapy can be the perfect option, allowing you and your spouse to find out the underlying issues that are causing your marital or relationship problems and fix them.

With Victoria Rivera, Wellness Psychotherapist, you get a couples therapist in NYC that cares about your situation and helps you get through the most difficult matters. To give you a better understanding of what it’s like working with me, I’ll answer some of the most commonly asked questions I receive.

What Questions Do Couples Therapists Ask?

Because couples therapy aims to get to the bottom of your problems, you and your spouse must be open to answering questions. The questions that a therapist asks will focus on your relationship, where you and your spouse stand, the problems you experience, and what solutions you feel can help you both resolve those issues.

These are just a few of the questions you may receive and why a couples therapist may ask them:

  • Are you happy? Most people seek out couples therapy because they no longer feel joy in their relationship. A follow-up question to this may be, “why don’t you consider yourself to be happy?”
  • What do you want to accomplish here? Before moving forward, you and your spouse should have an ultimate goal. Of course, if you are in couples therapy, you want your relationship to survive; however, you may also want to find ways to come out happier than ever and resolve specific problems.
  • How does your partner make you feel unwanted or upset? Getting to the root of the problem is the first step towards resolving the issue. Discussing the words and actions that make you feel upset or unwanted can help open the lines of communication.
  • What would you like your partner to do more? Discussing possible solutions can help the couples move forward in a productive manner and keep them communicating.

When you go through couples therapy, be open and honest. If you hide your feelings, you run the risk of missing out on the full experience. This means you may not find solutions, your partner may never know what makes you upset, and you may be unable to save your relationship.

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What Should I Expect from My First Couples Therapy Session?

It’s understandable that couples therapy can seem unnerving. Unfortunately, you’re not always sure what to expect, and it can be scary not knowing what will happen, especially when you and your partner experience numerous issues. The first thing to know is that your first session will involve both you and your partner together. Some couples therapy sessions will focus on each person having their own time, but your first session should always include both parties.

The first session will focus on addressing the history and issues, discussing the goals each partner has, and learning how to address differences within those goals. Partners may have different perspectives, but finding balance and working on a relationship can be the most effective thing.

The biggest piece of advice I can give to anyone entering their first couples therapy session is to be vulnerable.

How Do I Know If I Need Couples Therapy?

Oftentimes, the fear of incompatibility or divorce prevents couples from going through therapy. However, there are a few signs that can indicate it’s time for you and your partner to go to couples counseling. Recognizing these signs can help you make important decisions moving forward. SIgns include:

  • Lack of communication between partners
  • Lack of intimacy or boredom in a relationship
  • Desire to improve a relationship
  • Consistent fighting over similar problems
  • Feelings of unappreciation
  • Lack of affection or time
  • Distant feelings between partners
  • Past trauma impacting the current relationship

In some situations, couples utilize therapy when they are too co-dependent of one another, or if one person is more attached than the other. Many couples are afraid to admit they need counseling, but it’s sometimes for the best. Make sure you recognize the signs specific to you and your partner.

Call my office today for a free phone consultation, and I’ll help you understand your options.

Can I Do Couples Therapy Online?

It’s entirely possible to do couples therapy online, but it’s not always the most effective option. At the end of the day, online couples counseling requires the partners to be completely transparent and vulnerable in their communications with one another. Not all couples want to discuss their problems together in front of a therapist, so they request private rooms for their online sessions. In some particular situations, you may not even have to “see” the therapist in an online session, but it’s not an option for everyone.

What Is the Success Rate of Couples Counseling?

Before we detail the stats regarding couples counseling and the success rate, it’s important to remember that it’s just a stat. Every couple is different and you should note that your own success rate will be dependent on your willingness to get through counseling and find a solution for your relationship. In general, traditional couples therapy has a 70 to 80 percent success rate. Roughly 35% of couples go on to divorce within the 4 years following couples therapy.

 

Success is often based on how much the couple is willing to share and how dedicated they are to resolving the issues they have within their relationship. You can’t expect couples counseling to work if both partners are reserved, keeping secrets regarding their feelings, and arguing every step of the process. One of the biggest issues that lead to a couple failing in couples therapy is the inability to listen. Far too often, people are defensive when their partner tells them how they feel, and it leads to more contention than solutions.

Does a Couples Therapist Tell You to Stay Together or Leave?

While you may be looking for answers when seeing a couples therapist in NTC, you are only going to receive solutions. A counselor will never outright tell you to divorce your significant other or to stay together. It’s the therapist’s job to help you both identify problems and solutions. It’s about receiving healthy and helpful advice that you and your partner can utilize for years to come over the life of your relationship. If a therapist tells you that you should divorce or stay together, they’re not truly helping you.

 

It’s the advice you receive from the therapist that should help you and your partner make the important decision on your own. Couples therapy is not about giving the final answer regarding your relationship. Instead, it should help you identify why you and your partner feel a specific way and what you can do moving forward to either better your relationship or make the decision to dissolve it.

How Do I Choose the Best Couples Therapist In NYC?

If you need couples therapy in NYC, it’s important to do your research and choose the right counselor for you. Of course, you will find countless people claiming that they can help you, but for something as important as your relationship and marriage, you want to have someone you truly connect with to guide you through the process. Finding the right person means getting someone on your side who asks every possible question, finds any areas within the relationship that may lead to contention, and poses every possible solution to help you and your partner move forward.

 

Get a therapist that’s attentive to your needs and goals, and someone who is willing to work to help both you and your partner get the most out of couples therapy.

 

With more than 15 years of experience, I bring extensive knowledge and resources designed to help you and your spouse through some of the most troubling situations. I want to fully understand your relationship; your wants and needs, and your desires to move forward. Once you are ready to share, I’ll work with you and your spouse to find solutions that help suit your situation and guide you down the right path.

 

Call my office today for a free phone consultation, and I’ll help you understand your options.

 

For more info and inquiries:

Email: vrivera@wellnesspsychotherapistnyc.com

Phone: (917) 495-3858

Contact Page: https://wellnesspsychotherapistnyc.com/contact/