4 Tips to Reduce Stress and Save Your Marriage

Finding ways that you and your spouse can remove stress from your marriage can be one of the most beneficial things you do. Stress is difficult to endure, and it often causes contention in your relationship. With enough stress building up, it’s easy for couples to argue, fight, and otherwise cause struggles within your marriage. Understanding how to reduce stress can not only be good for your mental health, but it can save your marriage. 

Knowing what you and your spouse can do to better your relationship gives you peace of mind as you move forward in life. If you allow stress to build up, it can be significantly problematic for your marriage. 

My name is Victoria Rivera, and I am a NYC marriage counselor and wellness psychotherapist. I have more than 15 years of experience helping out people and relationships when situations get challenging. When you have a stressful marriage, I can work with you to find a method that focuses on your goals through mindfulness and meaning. I’m aware that stress can be detrimental to a relationship, and I want to help you find answers so you and your significant other can feel peace of mind moving forward. Below, I want to provide you with four tips that you and your spouse can use to reduce stress in your relationship and find peace with one another. 

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1 – Create Things You Can Do Together

Stress can make it difficult to do — or want to do — things with your significant other. You may find more time apart because you are not excited about doing things together. However, with any relationship, having things that you can do together can help your relationship grow. You want to find a way to enjoy your relationship together, which means enjoying each other’s company and the memories you can build together. 

Find things that you can do together to help build your relationship up. For instance, find a new hobby that you both enjoy. You can even go to a movie or event

Start by discussing options with your spouse and find things that make you both happy. Create a list of different activities you feel you and your significant other would like. Go through the list and pick one or a few to try. Once you have a clear idea of what you want to do, narrow the list down and start trying them together. If you like the event, continue doing it together. If not, try the next one. As long as you find things together, it can help. 

Essentially, you want to try and avoid some of the things that keep you separated, and encourage more time with your partner where you both can let loose and have fun.

2 – Keep Your Communication Completely Open

Never keep secrets from your significant other, especially when you are discussing important aspects of your relationship or marriage. For instance, one of the biggest talking points that people fail to communicate with is finances. Financial decisions must be discussed between both partners, but some people withhold information from their significant other. It’s one of the things that causes arguments most often. 

With communication, it’s important to openly discuss your feelings with your significant other. Unfortunately, so many people hold their feelings in instead of talking about them and discovering some of the issues they have. Keeping this secret can have a big impact on your relationship. How is your significant other supposed to know that something is wrong if you are never willing to talk about it? This can lead to arguments when couples let frustrations build up over time. 

Communication is the key to any success in relationships. You must express yourself openly and freely, whether things are good or bad. Never hold information in because it can be detrimental to your relationship. Even more, it can cause distrust quickly — a contention point for many couples. 

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3 – Understand Your Spouse’s Feelings 

You deserve to have the peace of mind to freely discuss your feelings in your relationship. At the same time, you must also have a clear understanding of your spouse’s feelings and allow them to discuss them without judgment or contention. Stressful feelings can arise quickly, and if you or your significant other feel as though you cannot discuss your feelings, it’s a negative in your relationship. You never want to feel like you can’t express your feelings with your partner without fear of getting judged or it becoming a problem.

Here are some of the ways you can express your feelings better:

In a relationship, you should never feel that you have to keep your feelings to yourself. 

4 – Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being aware of something. In a relationship, mindfulness means you are aware of how your partner feels and ways that they may be stressed. When you practice mindfulness, you get a better understanding of what can be going wrong in your relationship and what may be causing the stress. Mindfulness gives you a clearer picture of what’s going on in your relationship. 

Mindfulness also helps you focus on things in a healthy way. If you’re unsure of how to utilize mindfulness to your advantage for your relationship. Mindfulness takes you a long way towards saving your relationship when stress is present. 

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What Else You Can Do to Help Reduce Stress

It’s hard to ever admit that your relationship has a problem. However, it happens far more often than you may think. This would explain why nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce. One of the biggest factors in this is the fact that people are afraid to admit that they have a problem within their relationship. It makes it even more difficult to seek a resolution and discuss the problem. If you are unable to reduce stress on your own, you may instead try to get help from a marriage counselor who can help you.

If you’re looking for a NYC marriage counselor, be sure to choose one that knows how to uncover the issues you and your significant other are experiencing. You want to be confident that you can uncover many of the problems you feel exist in your relationship, as well as the underlying causes to protect your relationship moving forward. 

While you may hesitate to hire a couples therapist , remember that admitting there’s an issue is often the first step to take towards fixing it. You don’t have to be embarrassed about seeking help from a professional when it comes to your marriage. On the contrary, the fact that you have looked into a marriage counselor shows your commitment to your relationship. You are indicating that you want to improve the current state of your relationship and are willing to look for any remedy to help you find a solution that works for you. Never feel that you should be ashamed of looking for help when you need it most.

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For my entire career, I have put my focus into helping clients with marriage counseling and couples therapy. It’s never easy to experience problems in your relationship that can lead to a significant change in your life. Before anything happens, I want to work with you to help you achieve your goals. Remember, I work on a holistic and mindful approach. So, if one party is not willing to work through the process, it can make it much more difficult to find a successful resolution. 

When you need someone who is ready to help you and your spouse with solutions that suit your needs, know that I’ll be here to help you.

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Phone: (917) 495-3858 
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