One of the most problematic situations a couple can experience is stress. Unfortunately, it’s also a common reason that couples get help from a couples therapist or marriage counselor. For most, though, they don’t recognize potential signs until it gets to the point that couples consider divorce. I believe it’s vital to recognize some of the most vital signs that can show stress is present in a relationship. Even more, you should know that these signs could indicate a king in your marriage. 

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1. You don’t feel like there’s you time

It’s okay for couples to require some individual time to themselves. However, when some people are stressed in their relationship and feel like they’re not getting enough time to themselves, it’s easy for those feelings to turn into resentment. Couples can argue vigorously about their lack of alone time, causing contention and thoughts of separation.

2. Affection is rare

For many couples, affection and intimacy is a big deal. As couples begin to feel separated, they lose that same intimacy that they once had. A lack of affection can quickly change the dynamic of a relationship, but it often starts with stress. As stress builds up, you may find yourself wanting less and less contact with your significant other, which can make the other person feel unwanted and unappreciated. 

3. Listening to each other is more of a struggle

I will continually stress the importance of couples listening to each other. Some people claim that they didn’t hear their partner’s wishes or needs, but in reality, they weren’t listening to the problems. Taking the time to listen to your spouse or partner means really digging into what they are saying. If you’re stressed, you can either find it more tiresome to listen to your significant other, or you may ignore what they have to say completely.

4. Communication is lacking

Communication is often the key to a successful relationship. Unfortunately, many couples overlook the true importance of communicating goals, wants, and needs. If you don’t prioritize communication, it could be because you are stressed with the way things are going in your relationship. 

5. You’re not spending as much time together

If stress exists, you may find it more difficult to want to spend personal time with your significant other. You fear even more stress, arguing, and other problems arising. If you try to find ways to spend less time together because of stress, it can significantly hurt your relationship. Stress can mean you no longer have date nights, or in some cases, you may not even spend time together in your own home. 

6. You’re more focused on hobbies than each other

The less you focus on your relationship because of stress, the more you may focus on hobbies that you do on your own. Your hobbies can take away from your relationship significantly, so much so that it leads to divorce. Having hobbies can be an important aspect for many relationships, but they shouldn’t be so important that they force you to ignore your marital needs and goals.

7. You are getting more annoyed with each other

Do you find yourself getting more and more annoyed with your significant others’ actions? It could be due to stress that you have in your relationship. Any kind of stress can result in you and your significant other arguing over the smallest things. The annoyance you feel with each other can be enough to create constant contention. 

8. You are turning to drinking 

A few drinks every now and then is nothing to worry about, but if you or your spouse are drinking more and more to avoid some of the feelings that you have, it could be a problem. While it’s not a tell-tale sign of stress, it’s one of the things that can arise when you and your significant other are stressing each other out more. Keep in mind, when someone is drinking more than they normally would, they continue to tune out the importance of communication and listening, which is one of the more common reasons that divorce happens.

9. You have thoughts of separation or divorce

It’s never a good sign when you or your spouse start having thoughts of divorce or separation. It happens often, though, and it’s one of the clear signs of relationship stress. I highly recommend marriage counseling or couples therapy once you start to have these feelings. It could mean that the stress is becoming too much for one party within the relationship. 

10. You make excuses often regarding your relationship and why you can’t do certain things

If you are consistently stressed with your loved one and relationship, and your significant other requests to spend more time with you, excuses may become commonplace. You may start finding things to do other than going on dates with your spouse or significant other. You may even sit in the same room, but claim you have something important to do on your phone that prevents you from conversing with your significant other. This is a clear sign that stress exists in your relationship.

My name is Victoria Rivera. I truly believe that mindfulness and finding ways to limit stress can help save a marriage. If you’re here, there’s a chance that you and your spouse are struggling for one reason or another. It’s my goal to provide you with the counseling services you need to improve the communication in your marriage. No matter your goals, I’ll work to come up with a solution that suits your needs. As your trusted NYC marriage counselor, I’m here to be your guide every step of the way. 

For more info and inquiries:
Email: vrivera@wellnesspsychotherapistnyc.com
Phone: (917) 495-3858 
Contact Page: https://wellnesspsychotherapistnyc.com/contact/